How to handle a break up

Thinking of ways how to get over a bad break-up?
Here are tips that will surely help you handle that tough situation.

1.) Have your 'alone' time and do not think of the good memories

It is just natural for people experiencing an end of a relationship to mourn over the unfortunate situation. However, dipping oneself into the good memories of the ended relationship will not do him/her any good.

Pondering on the 'good times' will not help you detach yourself from the relationship which actually has ended because the two of you can no longer experience 'good times' whenever you are together.

It will greatly help if you spend time alone, thinking about the positive result the choice you both made and not having to live with your relationship's unbearable situation.

2.) Make positive changes to your life

Though it has become a running joke that those undergoing a tough time moving on from a break-up do weird things such as having their hair cut, changing their fashion statement or getting into a slimmer shape, changing something in you means you are welcoming change and announcing to the public your readiness to accept it.

So go ahead, wear a new color, experience new things and meet new people.


3.) Avoid expending and wasting yourself

Though you may feel very down, wasting all what's left of you is never a good idea.

Never turn your attention to alcohol, drugs, and other vices because these can only give you superficial 'pain relief' and can make your feelings crashing back down twice as fast.

If you feel you've been ripped, robbed, and ransacked, get up and redeem yourself.

4.) Remember there are other people with broken hearts

Knowing that there are other people out there who are experiencing or have experienced what you are actually going through can help you understand that you are not an outcast or punished by God or despised by destiny.

These people can actually help you figure things out. You can actually ask advice from them on how to handle things because they too are experiencing or have experienced being in that same, or maybe, worse situation.

5.) Understand what's normal

To live is to love. Living includes experiencing love, hate, sadness, happiness, success and failure.

If you never experienced one of these, maybe you have not lived your life fully yet.

But experiencing one, some, or all of these does not also mean it's the end of life. Just go on. Live, love, get hurt, get up. — ARA